uying a home is a the trauma of the first three.
stressful and emotional Many of us recognize the need to
affair. You can avoid the prepare mentally and emotionally
home buying blues by keeping your for retirement. Few of us realize
cool at closing. how badly buying and moving into
a new home frays our nerves and
I've just come from a settlement shortens our tempers. It can have
table at which a friend bought a serious consequences. I've seen
new condo. It's beautiful, deals blow up, and almost blow
convenient and just what she up, because of it. (Sometimes the
wanted. However, at the protagonists are the buyer and
settlement table she and a seller.)
relative whom she clearly loves
got into a tiff with each other. Mitigating Moves
What should have been a happy
occasion was almost spoiled. There are a number of things you
Thank heavens they got themselves can do to ensure that the day you
together and the situation was buy or sell your home is calm,
saved, but arguments and hurt sane and happy. Let's consider
feelings are frequent at some of them. Some are easy. Some
settlement tables and on moving harder. You're apt to think of
day. It doesn't have to be that some which will be unique to you
way. and your family.
The Trauma of Change First of all, simply realizing
that these are flash points and
Changing one's home is right up discussing it with family members
there with the big changes in is a good starting point. There
life - birth, death, divorce, and are many decisions to be made and
retirement. Most of us recognize much work to be done. Life is
about to change for everyone who settlement table happened because
is a party to the process. It someone assumed something and
helps to just acknowledge that didn't ask about it. They just
you'll need to work together so pitched into an irritated tirade.
that it's a good experience for Not a good idea.
everyone in the end. Remember the
expression, "I need to take a What if your questions turn up an
deep breath and get my unexpected and unacceptable
equilibrium back." Clue in family answer? Let it be known that you
members when you feel the tension expected it to be handled another
rise. way and why. Listen to any
explanation calmly. Evaluate it.
Get a good night's sleep the Does the other person have a
night before the settlement. Have valid point? How much difference
a good, unrushed breakfast. Have does it make to you? Remember, it
someone you know well look after isn't necessary to have
small children and pets until everything exactly as you'd like
after settlement; you don't need in order to have the transaction
distractions during a large go well for you. Keep the big
financial transaction. picture in mind. You don't have
to be right about everything, nor
At settlement, ask questions do you have to win every point in
about anything you don't order to be pleased with the
understand. Use a quiet, neutral final outcome.
voice. Don't sound like you are
accusing someone of something. Whether you call it settlement or
Simply ask for information and closing, the final meeting will
clarity. Don't feel rushed. Take be stressful even if absolutely
the time to understand. Many of everything goes perfectly. Make
the arguments I've seen at the sure you get through it by
minimizing the stress.
About the Author:
Raynor James is with http://www.fsboamerica.org - providing FSBO homes for sale by owner. Visit our "sell my home" page at http://www.fsboamerica.org/seller.cfm to list and sell your home for free for one month.
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